Something's just not right about our lives these days! What is it? Everyone seems so stressed and irritable! Why aren't things the way it used to be before? When people used to be genuinely happy, poor, yet genuinely happy. How was it possible that you didn't have food to eat and yet you could be happy deep down inside. Was it the commitment in relationships, the simplicity of people and the unconditional love that people wanted to give that made the magic? I guess so!
Today, people are afraid to make commitments, or is 'afraid' just an excuse for frivolity? I have seen times when there was no internet or mobile phone, people had no means of contacting people they don't know personally. But its a different world today, the world is open to many opportunities. People depend on virtual means to know one another, but that is so different from knowing a person in real. Often, when we meet a person after talking to him on the phone, he seems to be a completely different person. A person cannot be encompassed in a mail or on phone, a person carries a world inside himself. And to know that world, we need to see and feel a person in real. We need to know if his smile appeals to us, if his laughter makes you want to laugh too, how he behaves in different situations, how he is to others, how he walks, how he eats, how chivalrous he is or how ladylike she is, how much patience he has, how he takes a joke, how he drives, how he drinks... whew!!! So many things to know about a person, the list is endless! Now how can we know all this on the phone or mail?
No we come to commitment - why are we afraid to commit today? Is it because our relationships are so virtual? Or is it because we don't want to miss out on a better opportunity that may come up tomorrow? Well, whatever it is, it has taken away the stability in relationships that our parents felt in their lives. When we go out and see an old couple laughing and holding hands, we look in awe - "how sweet" we think. Deep down inside we know that we will probably never have that kind of a relationship. Can we really not???
I'm sure we can, but it would take wholesome commitment from both to make it happen. But is it really so difficult? Is it so difficult to trust someone? Why, cant we trust ourselves? Is it so difficult to understand the other when he fails in something, wouldn't you want him to understand you when you do? Why do we have so little patience today, why do we need so much space, what do we do with it? Well, when two people decide to share each other's life, a lot changes about their own lives. we cannot expect that it will remain the same as before, why would we commit if we want it to be the same! But along with the happiness comes a lot of responsibility, sacrifice and acceptance. We should be ready for all this and relationships work like magic! A complete commitment gives us all the meaning we need in life.
Here's wishing people true happiness!!! :)
